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Swashbuckler

The premier male confidence coaching program

Men make demands of the world and get what they want. Men with a strong sense of self treat others poorly and require endless love, affection, and money. They want and seek power. Confidence comes standard and male confidence is suspect. Right? WRONG.

Men avoid conflict, awkward moments, and asking for what they want. They have untapped, inner potential. They'd live a fuller life, but they're racked with doubt. They'd prioritize others and be more honest, but don't know how. Wrong? RIGHT.

Feel capable and confident

SENSE OF SELF & CONFIDENCE

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Security and confidence come from a coherent, strong sense of self. Interestingly, a strong sense of self doesn't promote domineering, cruel behavior; it promotes self-assuredness. It emanates reliable, calm energy. By its nature, it renders needy, mean behavior almost impossible. Distasteful male behavior stems from insecurity and a sense of emptiness. Mean men want to feel powerful because they know they're not.

 

Men who possess a strong sense of self can be vulnerable, aren't easily threatened, and can let others be themselves. Grievance and greed are anathema to their experience of the world. They prioritize others. They're comfortable being seen as admirable and attractive because they know they're worthwhile: They can get what they need from the world because they have an unwavering place in it.

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My coaching-style therapy offers behavioral and psychological paths to a more coherent sense of self. So, are you ready?

What will Dr. Coleman use to help me?

  • Clinical skills: Deep, intense doctoral training, fellowship experience, 8 years in practice

  • ​Worldview: Male in his 30s, varied life experiences, years of researching male behavior

  • Personal experiences: A lifetime pursuit of a confident, calm demeanor and attitude

  • A keen eye and ear for the nuances of human behavior and feeling: Body language, tone, avoidances, interpersonal conflict, interpersonal risk, needy behavior, intolerance of others

  • My unique understanding of anxiety: Anxiety has power - harness it

  • Sharp, high-level social and emotional attunement; a skillset seemingly uncommon to males

  • A long, strange reading list. Reach out today to learn more

You can:

  • Stop faking it: Develop a stable and secure sense of self

  • ​Allow others to be mad at you

  • Take the lead and put others first. When you can't, say it

  • Feel safe and secure inside; don't fear conflict

  • Stop involuntarily bending over backwards for others

  • Stop 'padding' your messages; be straightforward

  • Stop offering fake apologies and 'thank yous'

  • Be open to learning, but don't hesitate and hedge.

  • Commit to your values and point of view

  • Learn to command a room

  • Develop comfort being seen, admired, and respected

  • ​Learn to feel lovable and to truly love others

  • Enjoy enriching, vulnerable conversation

  • Speak more freely and with less angst

  • Object or disagree without hostility or fear

  • Be less needy and more self-sacrificing

  • Learn to pause, be silent, and not defend yourself or scramble; re-define toughness

  • Be more faithful, loyal, and honest

  • Learn what you want in life

  • Learn what you want in relationships

  • Ask for what you want and need

Feel capable and confident

See also: A trusted, valuable resource for male commitment and accountability: https://ctaccountability.com/

Coaching population: Adult men. The Swashbuckler program can be applied to women; call to discuss.

Please contact for pricing.

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